Is there any better way to lift your spirits and fill your cup than a night out with your girlfriends?
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I have to admit, I’m not that comfortable in social situations where I don’t know everyone. I’m terrible at making small talk and introducing myself to new people. You won’t find me hanging out at the school gate chatting with the other mums for hours and I’m always the quiet one at yoga, keeping to myself, minding my own business.
Now, that’s not to say that I don’t love socialising, I do, but I am really blessed to have a wonderful group of friends whom I’ve known forever and love hanging out with every opportunity I get. So I guess this would be called playing it safe. I’m not exactly shy, I just don’t often choose to put myself out there. Luckily, though…I have a friend who does and she makes sure I come along with her!
And so, last Saturday night, I went out with a group of girls I’m just getting to know. And…we had a blast.
My children don’t go to school locally and what I’ve found is that it can be a little alienating for all of us. We don’t have the same opportunity to make friends and get to know people in our community like those who have kinder, school and sports in common. For me, joining in with this group of gorgeous girls who have already established firm friendships was a little intimidating but they could not have been friendlier or more welcoming.
I didn’t get a photograph but we probably looked something like this…
We met for dinner at a local restaurant where food, wine and conversation was enjoyed without interruptions, without children needing to be taken to the toilet right as our meal was served and without drinks being spilled all over the table…actually, I think there was a drink spilled but hey, it’s not a party until something gets knocked over! We admired each others shoes, we shared birth stories and we complained about our husbands total refusal to ‘flick out’ the washing before hanging it on the line.
We worried about how we would deal with teen drinking in the future and promised to support each other when the time came. We bonded over the admission that we sometimes pretend to be asleep when our husbands came to bed, even when we had been flirting and making promises during the day and how we then feign incomprehension at how we could have fallen asleep insisting that we be woken up next time. Can you imagine waking a sleeping, exhausted mother? I’m pretty sure my husband wouldn’t go there no matter how much I insisted!
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Women, I think, are held together by our friendships. We are so good at being there for each other. We are willing to talk, to support each other and to share the load so to speak. I just couldn’t get by without my friends and I’m so glad I took myself out of my comfort zone to make some new ones.
Do you love hanging out with your girlfriends? What is the funniest thing that’s ever happened to you on a Girls Night Out? Which Sex and the City character are you most like?
Have fun!
mamacino x
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I thought it was just my hubby who didn’t do the flick !!!!
So did we!
So glad you had fun….check out this post you can recite it for a laugh on your next girls’ night http://lifeandothercrises.blogspot.com.au/2011/05/let-me-go-fk-to-sleep-wifes-lament.html
haha my husband taught me the flick…so much cleaning crap to learn now that my cleaner has gone.
Don’t get too good at it…best to do an average job and you might get another cleaner x
I’ve just been talking about this with a couple of friends today:-)
What would we do without our friends?
Your husbands actually hang out washing! I’m truly astounded.
Love Mumabulous
Ha! We shouldn’t be complaining, should we, lol!
This is a tricky one. Had to not make myself sound pathetic. OK, here goes. I have no friends. I know…tragic right. I had a long bout of agoraphobia and so now that I am poking my head out, everyone else has their friends already. I have had a BBQ with the people next door..it’s a start. I’m a bit envious of your friends group. It sounds so lovely. I plan to make friends when I move. That’s one of my goals.
But you have a friend in me
Goodness subtlekate you are so brave. Brave to have conquered (at least it sounds like it) the agoraphobia and brave to start again. Some friends are there for you for life an some are transitional, find both and don’t be sad when he transitional ones move on, it’s the way life flows. Don’t think it’s you. I am amazed that friend intake just keeps coming, despite thoughts that after school it’s all over it’s not true. I’ve met friends online
at yoga,
Mothers group, at kindy drop offs, neighbours etc… Through friends. You will do great xxx
I would like to have you both over for a cup of tea x
Sounds perfect! and good on your for letting a friend lead you to more fun times!
This is the first year since we moved here 5 1/2 years ago that I have a steady social life with wonderful women. We have a monthly dinner out that changes depending on who is free so we can be 6 people one month and 12 the next LOL and sometimes people bring new friends to join so we are always open and it’s fun. I also catch up weekly with the few women I am closest with and our kids play in the park (Friday after school) while we sip some wine and kids come and go for snacks and chats. I used to eb so jealous of the women with close girlfriends but I am finally getting there (now not to move again!) – deb xx
It takes time to build your tribe and it’s not always easy, especially when you are new to an area, but it’s worth it! We’d go mad if it weren’t for our mates to celebrate or commiserate with on a regular basis x
I sure love spending time with girlfriends and the time arises – right now my family comes first and lots of projects I’m working on – but when we make the time, it’s always a blast.
We are lucky because just a few hours together every now and then keeps us going for ages!
I love spending time with my girlfriends and don’t get to do it often enough with kids and work and just life in general, so when we do get to catch up it’s gold. One of the best nights was actually at the end of one our girlfriends hens nights, all the other girls had left and it was just our core group of 5 girls plus the hens sister and we sat in a pub and drank and talked about why each of us would be allowed to come on the ark when the world ended and what our jobs would be. It was hilarious, although probably not to anyone but us!
What a fun thing to do! I remember before husbands and kids, we used to play a game where we would predict what kind of husband we would all end up with! Hilarious!
hahaa… I’m laughing at the flicking! It annoys me so much. I’d rather hang it up myself! 10 years down the line and he still doesn’t get it.
I’m good at “playing it safe” when it comes to friends, but tomorrow night, I too, am meeting a group of girls I’ve only met a couple of times before. I’m a little nervous, will we have enough to chat about without our kids there to distract us?! But after reading this, I’m excited – it’ll be fun
/Camilla
I bet you have a blast – have a champagne as soon as you arrive…it breaks the ice and gets the tongues wagging
Have a lovely time!