Is there any better way to lift your spirits and fill your cup than a night out with your girlfriends?
I have to admit, I’m not that comfortable in social situations where I don’t know everyone. I’m terrible at making small talk and introducing myself to new people. You won’t find me hanging out at the school gate chatting with the other mums for hours and I’m always the quiet one at yoga, keeping to myself, minding my own business.
Now, that’s not to say that I don’t love socialising, I do, but I am really blessed to have a wonderful group of friends whom I’ve known forever and love hanging out with every opportunity I get. So I guess this would be called playing it safe. I’m not exactly shy, I just don’t often choose to put myself out there. Luckily, though…I have a friend who does and she makes sure I come along with her!
And so, last Saturday night, I went out with a group of girls I’m just getting to know. And…we had a blast.
My children don’t go to school locally and what I’ve found is that it can be a little alienating for all of us. We don’t have the same opportunity to make friends and get to know people in our community like those who have kinder, school and sports in common. For me, joining in with this group of gorgeous girls who have already established firm friendships was a little intimidating but they could not have been friendlier or more welcoming.
We met for dinner at a local restaurant where food, wine and conversation was enjoyed without interruptions, without children needing to be taken to the toilet right as our meal was served and without drinks being spilled all over the table…actually, I think there was a drink spilled but hey, it’s not a party until something gets knocked over! We admired each others shoes, we shared birth stories and we complained about our husbands total refusal to ‘flick out’ the washing before hanging it on the line.
We worried about how we would deal with teen drinking in the future and promised to support each other when the time came. We bonded over the admission that we sometimes pretend to be asleep when our husbands came to bed, even when we had been flirting and making promises during the day and how we then feign incomprehension at how we could have fallen asleep insisting that we be woken up next time. Can you imagine waking a sleeping, exhausted mother? I’m pretty sure my husband wouldn’t go there no matter how much I insisted!
Women, I think, are held together by our friendships. We are so good at being there for each other. We are willing to talk, to support each other and to share the load so to speak. I just couldn’t get by without my friends and I’m so glad I took myself out of my comfort zone to make some new ones.
Do you love hanging out with your girlfriends? What is the funniest thing that’s ever happened to you on a Girls Night Out? Which Sex and the City character are you most like?
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